Sexual Violence

A Different Kind of Death

While dangerous to compare different types of tragedy, sometimes our response to one kind of trauma can inform our response to another. Last week, a graduate student at my alma mater – Brown University – committed suicide by jumping to his death from the 12th floor of the Sciences Library, a building near a […]

By |April 8th, 2015|Sexual Violence|Comments Off on A Different Kind of Death

The Truth About False Accusation Revisited

With recent attention on UVA and the Rolling Stone story, there has been a new wave of discussion about The Truth About False Accusation graphic on social media and even on the Washington Post that has compelled me write about this topic again, two years later. While I appreciate the prerogative of any journalist, […]

By |December 10th, 2014|Sexual Violence|6 Comments

Power (less/ful) Birth: A Sexual Assault Survivor’s Experience

In the wake of the birth of my second child, I feel compelled to write about my experience in real-time, which is something I don’t typically do.  Birth is raw and messy, and my feelings about it are still raw and messy, made more so by the hormones and sleep deprivation that accompany new […]

By |February 10th, 2014|Double Silence|7 Comments

The Double Silence Series

When I gave birth to my son, I had no idea that birth could be traumatic. And as a survivor of sexual violence – even one who had spent 15 years healing - I went into pregnancy and birth without the knowledge and awareness I needed to make empowered decisions to guard against that […]

By |February 7th, 2014|Double Silence|2 Comments

Walking the walk? A critical guide to analyzing your campus’ commitment to sexual assault prevention

In the wake of negative media coverage for colleges and universities being sued under Title IX, a number of institutions of higher education are announcing new hires in sexual assault prevention. These hires are receiving media attention, and there is no doubt that it’s a positive step forward for campuses.

 

However, one hire, one press […]

By |October 29th, 2013|Sexual Violence|Comments Off on Walking the walk? A critical guide to analyzing your campus’ commitment to sexual assault prevention

Thoughts on Trauma: Boston Marathon, Aurora, veterans, and sexual violence

Trauma has been in the news lately. We just passed the 6-month anniversary of the Boston Marathon bombing, the one-year anniversary of the mass shooting in Aurora, and ongoing coverage of returning veterans facing PTSD, so there has been extensive coverage about victims, survivors, and bystanders throughout the news. One story, on WBUR, featured […]

By |October 25th, 2013|Sexual Violence|Comments Off on Thoughts on Trauma: Boston Marathon, Aurora, veterans, and sexual violence

On Cancer and Sexual Violence: It’s Time for a Movement

 

It’s hard to imagine, but less than 50 years ago, having breast cancer was a shameful thing. In my grandmother’s generation, women suffered – and died – alone, keeping their cancer a secret from family members and friends. The treatment available was crude and painful, and diagnosis almost always came too late. Prevention was […]

By |September 27th, 2013|Sexual Violence|Comments Off on On Cancer and Sexual Violence: It’s Time for a Movement

5 Things to Consider Before Calling Someone a Rape Apologist

If you have entered into conversation and dialogue about the issue of sexual violence, you may have heard the term “rape apologist.” While this term hasn’t yet made it into Webster’s Dictionary, an apologist is someone who “makes a defense in speech or writing of a belief or idea.” A rape apologist is term […]

By |August 26th, 2013|Sexual Violence|9 Comments

What helping a blind man taught me to see

This week, I tried to help a blind man on the subway.  I say tried because whatever I did was totally not helpful at all, despite my best intentions.

I was waiting to get on a busy rush hour train as I saw a man with a white cane exiting from the subway car. He […]

By |August 8th, 2013|Sexual Violence|Comments Off on What helping a blind man taught me to see

Anger, enemies, and injustice: What we can learn from Trayvon Martin and Edmonton’s “Don’t be the Girl/Guy” campaign

When an injustice occurs, it’s human to be angry.  Being angry is easy, and it feels good and cathartic.  But in order to actually address systemic injustices, we need to be mindful of the ways in which we allow that anger to shape our response. Today, on a summer Monday morning, there are two […]

By |July 15th, 2013|Sexual Violence|Comments Off on Anger, enemies, and injustice: What we can learn from Trayvon Martin and Edmonton’s “Don’t be the Girl/Guy” campaign